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Good one - Life Perspectives

At 40,

• It's ok to be yourself
• Take a pause and relook
• Life is short do what you feel is right
• Be kind
• Be cruel when it comes to focusing, the quality of your work
• Travel and have fun but be focused on what you do

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Some perspectives / Short Stories

 

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The Blues of Life

If you are skilled sooner or later you will get a job

If you don't have healthy habits sooner or later you will lose a part of your lifetime due to bad health

When we are far apart in minds no matter how close you are still far apart and away

Sometimes titles, sometimes money, sometimes lust but nothing can come forever and nothing in that is soul-fulfilling. Connecting with people is chaos. Better to focus on own purpose in life, travel, teach and die alone

Sometimes death has to be peaceful, neither live in others heart nor give them the burden of being with you

I spent the same life past twenty years, code for a living

Time to let go of everything, lose yourself, be anonymous, live without anything, and die without anything

All the world is a stage where all men and women play their roles same as what Shakespeare said

Fair is foul, foul is fair, As it appears in Macbeth. What appears good is not actually good, What is bad is not actually bad

If this is what happiness in life, I don't really need this life, Let me go on the highway and enjoy the company with the Stars. Those stars are my friends, the ilayaraja song is my soul and my ghost rider is my best buddy in my Life. If death comes calling this very moment I will hug it and go with a big smile. No commitments, No burden, Nothing expected!!!!

Let me love this Life or Kiss my Death!!!

Loneliness

What we feed our mind locks our thoughts. What we think about locks our focus. What we regret locks our happiness. Sometimes there is the hype about things we don't have. In a way, this mechanical life is taking away all the exploration from life. We need to stay away from this routine of commitments, hope, and life. 

I don't want to follow or fall into the trap of lust or greed. I just want to come above everything which can be defocused than being on the wrong path.

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Wealth

It is not about bank balance

It is not about money multiplying with interest

It is not about money for the next few generations

It is not about 'Feeling of I am Safe'

It is not about 'length of life'

You can be happy with what you have or unhappy with all that you gave. Driving on the ghats, Seeing a beautiful sunset, Have a late light tea on a highway are simple things that do not need a lot of money or wealth. Somehow I am out of all this race. Just be in the workforce for some time and starting living life differently.

Maybe the next few years I may spend more time away from the city, the crowd, and people. Time to be with nature.

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Connected things in Life

This circle is the hardest thing to balance, understand and implement :)

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A Less Regretful Day

Some people I had hurt in the past because I could not convince my mom, they moved ahead with their Life. I felt happy about it. At this point in Life I have zero debts, zero emotional pain. Everyone around me has moved on. Time for me to think about doing something concrete. To think beyond career, money, and life. 

I wish to travel somewhere and stay out of my Laptop and be with nature for a week. Let me wander out and settle in some remote forest for a week.

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Life thoughts

There is a program in Colors, One young couple. They must be in their 20s. Both belong to different religions. The guy was calm, composed. He did his best running for a task and picked up maximum items. His wife cried and said, "We had gone through a lot of struggle, only he can keep me happy". The statement was testimony to the trust and support they had in their relationship.

Finding a like-minded partner requires a lot of effort/trust and patience. For everything you lose, you gain something. I have crossed that phase and made a number of mistakes. Again education/career / financial commitments are another reason, not a justification.

The search goes on to find the 'one' who is traveling in the same state.

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Retrospection

There is a certain amount of regret for missing certain things in life. You can never satisfy expectations from your closed circles too. Still, I have problems with astrology, Indian marriage aspects, criteria. In this lockdown, a bigger challenge is managing my mom's expectations. There were so many proposals that got messed up because of the difference in perspectives. Many of my friends have kids going second, third at this point. For everything you get, you need to lose something. More than what I gained, I feel pain for the things people highlight oh you have not settled. I don't have an answer but I feel life is short and making someone feeling regretful is worse than not helping them. I would not blame my mother. I would only blame myself for this situation.

Move on, At times you are your own company. Always!!!

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Consultant approach

Everything we need to look at as consultant approach

• Balanced perspective neither too far nor too close
• Look at problem or challenge and get contextual knowledge
• Focus on possibilities
• Learn more on needs, learnings, experiments
• Formulate approach and build a birds-eye view
• Experiment, Learn, Evaluate, build on your perspectives with experimental learnings
• Stay focused and balanced with respect to time 

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Competency

Competency is not earned by

• Theoretical knowledge
• Listening to accidentally successful people
• Listening to motivational speakers

Competency is earned by

• Insults that push you to learn more
• People who compliment 'You are bad' and push you to learn more
• Experimenting
• Reading more to understand
• Connect the dots and make more experience
• By being able to present, experiment, explain and push your ideas
• Curiosity and Constantly answer-seeking mindset

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Perception of Life

Many times there is a personal retrospection to accept the beliefs/facts of life

• Always try to play safe because you are too old
• Life is about living for others so we should follow what everyone follows
• Giving opinions vs forcing opinions. Failing to trust other choices
• Judgemental vs My way or Getaway
• Where to draw the line of work vs life vs passion vs family
• Life is about living independently without giving an emotional or financial load to dependents
• Life is about Learning to experiment, Learning from failure, Attempting with all required knowledge dependencies

Keep correcting, Keep improving, Keep going!!!

Keep Life Inspiring and Interesting

There has to be perennial source of

• Knowledge input (Learning, books, blogs, code)
• Emotional input (Clarity of thought, focus and attention without distraction)
• Futuristic (Ambitious yet planned execution, Keeping your mind open to learning, implementing, Child like curious mindset to learn, code, grow)
• Thoughts (Feed your focus on attention to detail, Starve your distractions)
• Goals (Meaningful goals, time bound checks, eliminate waste in life (regrets, failures, insults), Increase on your throughput in delivery speed, problem solving speed, meticulously thinking in detail

Live Well, Live a meaning Life!!!

Life in Data Science Perspective

I believe decisions need to be data-based, logical and not just based on emotions. In the same context prioritizing life objectives. Looking back at 60 I wish to have

• Well accomplished career
• Less regretful life
• A small happy and contended family
• Be kind and help people you meet in this journey
• Live up to your values

Taking it further, We need to allocate time for all the different goals in life

•  Self-achievement
•  Relationship
•  Family
•  Environment
•  New people and places
•  Living your values and be an inspiration for people to get inspired
•  Be consistent with words, deeds
•  Being the best version, tuning yourself to be the best from your learning

The total happiness lies in small acts of kindness, being open to people, trust people no matter what, work hard, go the extra mile, stay focused and consistent in life goals.

Reality - The real phase of life is

• Love for self (60%)
• Love for parents (30%)
• Love for relationships (10%)

As an individual, you need to focus on

• Learning (20%)
• Career (30%)
• Self-goals (30%)
• Relationships (20%)

You need to be happy with yourself and your family. Happiness begins with self. It does not come only from relationships. A relationship can be a passing cloud, rainbow or a long lasting one. Only time can answer the loyalty, trust, and truth in a relationship. When things are not allocated in right proportions for what they deserve you will not get expected results. A relationship grows as the family, kids come into the picture. The real sense of commitment will show up in years of being together and still remain as good friends.

Looking at how I wanted my life to be looked up for accomplishment in different perspectives, Be someone whom the world can look up to values, efforts, deeds, and actions. Everything exists but not everyone lives.

• Live a less regretful life
• Live a life that inspires your surroundings
• Don't look for example strive to be an example
• Don't look at the present situation, focus on the larger purpose and goals
• Give hope, Stay alive, Live this moment
• Keep your soul happy, Don't be an eye candy be a soul food

Professional Debts - Yes it took time to understand your skills, expertise, I do not believe Education ends in college. I did masters after 30. I still continue to spend hours every day on this I like to learn / work. I would says being single is a biggest major contributor for better knowledge / learning acumen. Reading technical papers / blogs / upskilling was possible because of lesser dependencies

Financial Debts - Very much it takes time to settle down financially. I have better planned disciplined lifestyle, planning. Having a planned way to track down and close on debts

Relationship Debts - Because of focus on Above two this was not focussed or less successful. I happy for that. Even if I had a good relationship and failed in above two I guess I would not be happy either. Not everything happens at the time we want. We just need to continue the journey and move towards next milestone.

Follow things in order of priority Learning, Self-Goals, Career, Environment and Friends, Meaningful relationships. 

Happy Living with Values!!!