Top 20 Questions to probe your marriage partner about his values
- What are your core values?
- How do you define success?
- What do you believe is the most important thing in life?
- What do you believe is the purpose of life?
- What do you think is the most important thing in a relationship?
- How do you handle conflict?
- How do you handle stress?
- What do you think is the best way to show love and appreciation?
- What do you think is the most important thing to teach our children?
- What do you think is the best way to resolve disagreements?
- What do you think is the best way to handle money?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember in a marriage?
- What do you think is the most important thing to prioritize in life?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember when making decisions?
- How do you think we should handle our differences?
- How do you think we should handle our finances?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in disagreement?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in conflict?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in a difficult situation?
- What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in a difficult conversation?
Top 10 questions to spot difference between views and reality in potential marriage discussion
- How do you envision your future together?
- What are your expectations of marriage?
- How do you plan to handle disagreements?
- What compromises are you willing to make?
- What is your understanding of the roles and responsibilities of each partner?
- How do you plan to manage finances?
- What is your opinion on parenting and raising children?
- What is your opinion on religious beliefs and practices?
- How do you plan to handle extended family relationships?
- How do you plan to handle household chores?
Top 10 questions to probe red flags in marriage partner
- What are your expectations for a successful marriage?
- How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?
- How do you handle money and finances?
- How do you handle stress and difficult times?
- How do you handle family and friends?
- How do you handle differences in opinion?
- How do you handle criticism and feedback?
- How do you handle change and new situations?
- How do you handle anger and frustration?
- How do you handle intimacy and physical affection?
Top 10 questions to spot a cheating marriage partner discussion
- Have you been spending more time away from home than usual?
- Are you being secretive about your phone or computer activities?
- Have you been talking to someone else more than usual?
- Are you dressing differently than usual?
- Are you suddenly more interested in your appearance?
- Have you been spending more money than usual?
- Are you avoiding physical contact with me?
- Are you suddenly more critical of me?
- Have you been lying to me about where you’ve been?
- Are you suddenly more defensive when I ask questions?
Keep Exploring!!!
- Good looks do not mean this person is a great fit in your life. The look is good at the beginning but communication and perspectives will decide if its short term or long term
- Living with someone who does not align to your perspectives, opposite direction of likes / choices / preferences ends up more as a compromise
- We get judged by looks, Even i have this bad mindset, not biased but first impression is from looks / education. Beyond looks and education, there are good souls but its hard to spot. Stay kind
- Its ok to be single than settling with hope this will work. People change with time-based on needs and preferences. Beyond a point, it feels like suffocating to manage the expectations
- Lies are better to comfort than sharing the truth. But lies cannot be consistent and will be spotted in due course. It's okay to be honest about mistakes than trying to pretend or put blame on others
- It's easy to live without a flow. Satisy current needs and move on without bothering principles or purpose. In same way everything adds up for what we get in life. Every penalty is due to some mistake that was part of our thoughts/habits
- Sometimes you endup alone to be at peace with yourself
Keep Thinking!!!
A relationship is like tissue paper. Once it gets wet due to lust/emotion it will end up in the dust bin.
If it comes for money it will go once the money is over
If it comes for lust it will go after the pleasure
If it comes for attraction it will fade when the attraction is over
If it comes for timepass it will go once it finds a new spot
If it is built on selfishness it will leave one person orphaned any time
If it is built on the convenience it will hop when it finds next level upgrade
Relationships for Sex, Money, Drugs, Alchohol are quickest ways to send you on a speedy path to death
If it has a purpose, plan, thought then it will get into the debate, discussion, differences mode
Accepting truth and working on it is harder to accept but that is the only way to sustain
It's hard to accept the facts but it's even harder to reap the consequences after making a mistake.
What goes around will come back. Don't play with people. Be genuine and clear in your decision's
Part with true reason and Intentions. Remember holding guilt is the biggest punishment till death
Keep Thinking!!!
My mother has the habit of recollecting, magnifying and playing back all the mistakes since the beginning, the problem this leads is
- You always have a fear of what words will spark a debate
- Every time get into the mindset of feeling guilt
- We have many differences but there is a melting point beyond which we need to stay respectful and don't hurt someone emotionally
- At some point in life, every relationship brings more threats than trust. This could be the reason why people lead lives all alone even when they have a family.
Only when we have meaningful relationships then only we can support and grow. Understanding, accepting, and staying within limits is the key to sustain any relationship.
Keep Going!!!
Easy to find a mate
Hard to find a match
Easy to fall for lies
Hard to talk the facts
Lust sometimes overtakes emotions
Emotions sometimes overtake finances
Relationship demands overtake personal goals
Easy to find a one-night stand
Hard to find someone who matches both emotional and intellectual thoughts
Credibility comes with time and actions, not with perspectives/promises
The mindset of curiosity, patience, and clarity is more important than financial assets
Live to collect experiences not to save assets
Hurt less, Stay Kind, Be Selective
Not everyone is your kind of personality
Search for the one kindest soul, and work towards a peaceful life
Keep Going and Keep Searching!!!
Everything now boils down to predictions
Applying different strategies
Cold calls
Compelling proposals
Bridging confidence
Providing the vision
A lot of people are out there looking for kind people. Find your partner
Keep Going!!!
Great couples are not born
Being a great couple requires great efforts
Some breakups make you better
Some breakups break you for a better future
Relationships built on money, caste, religion will fade with time
Relationships built on support, understanding will drive you long way
Life needs more memories and fewer goals
Do something good for humanity
Finding a mate is easier than finding love
Search until you find the one for you
Keep Going!!!
#TheJourney
Emotional - How much we trust the person. What level of comfortable / uncomfortable conversations you can have
Intellectual - What drives similarities outside romance
Values - The fundamentals of trust, loyalty and perspectives in kids, finances, lifestyles
Outside this ability to think through, setting aside astrology and working meaningfulness to sort differences, patience.
Key Lessons
- Trust
- Negotiation
- Conflict Resolution
- Shared vision of future (Kids / Able to share responsibility)
Able to do things with them independent of Romantic thing, Some Similarity in personality style. Super agreeable / Super-Disagreeable is important to find someone who has a balance of both.
Happy Living!!!
