Regret - Guilt - Pain

December is a disastrous time in my life. My vehicle was claimed by floodwaters. I found myself questioning my decisions, wondering why my instincts had failed me. Letting go of something I invested my heart in is proving difficult.

The exhaustion is palpable; work has pushed me beyond my breaking point. Health concerns are mounting as age begins to show its effects. Sometimes I question the value of it all in the grand scheme of things.

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Car Flooding

My Vehicle was flooded completely. Below are the parts costs. My guess is repair costs would be 4-6 lakhs

• Radiator 28,535
• Intercooler 17,442
• Spark Plug 740
• Cylinder Kit 1,05,876
• Clutch Plate 21,075
• Head Light (Left or Right ) 29,398
• Tail Light (Left or Right) 5,220
• Fog Lamp Assembly 3,395
• Bulb 1,057
• Head Light LED (Left Or Right ) 31,408
• Combination Switch 10,305
• Battery 28,370
• Horn 1,995
• Oil Filter 791
• Air Filter 856
• Fuel Filter 2,459
• ENGINE CONTROL MODULE 53,704
• MODULE OF RELAY WI 1,00,709
• UNIT-ELEC.PROGRAMM 1,17,537
• MODULE ASSY - AIR BAG, DRIVER 11,545
• ECU-PARKING AID 8,984
• TRANSMISSION CONTROL MODULE ₹36,409

Range of parts ₹405,072. - ₹617,810. Work may be 1 lakh additional

7 Lakhs could be cost

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Life vs Time vs Health

Health is more important than everything
Sometimes silence is the better answer than trying to prove your point
You cannot win in a Team when there is a lot of mistrust
Do not put your time and effort into convincing everything
Sometimes you need to stop earning to start learning and living
Above all, prioritize your mental health and peace

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Let Life be a Positive Story

 

Wish the same level of Optimism and Energy. Live till you die. Don't Die every day to Live.

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Emotions of Life

 Life is not easy when dealing with conflicting emotions. We do not want to go against opinions but at the same time, it's hard to suppress emotions. After several failures, it becomes so hard to trust people. All the smiles may not carry the same intentions. If everyone's faces reflect their heart will know the true beauty of life. Life seems much easier when you are alone. Everyone wants you to be better but not better than them. Lust / Greed / Money all are traps for bigger failures. Earning money does not make me happy. Doing work I like to do and earning from it makes it meaningful. Marriage is not a solution but a step forward if you have like-minded thinking. Life is sometimes puzzling, sometimes a mystery, sometimes pain, sometimes pain becomes a pleasure. At least death serves as a solution for everything. When no one remembers you after death as 'How bad he was' that is all that we need in Life, Not to be remembered. Neither exploit nor yet exploited. Just vanish in the air. Keep Life Simple.

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Critical Thinking

 

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Storytelling Tips from Books

What are takeaway from EXECUTIVE PRESENCE for a senior technical professional

• Gravitas is crucial: As a senior technical professional, it's essential to project confidence, authority, and decisiveness. Demonstrate your expertise and ability to handle challenging situations to gain the respect and trust of your colleagues and superiors.
• Communication skills matter: Effective communication is vital for leaders in any field, including technical professionals. Work on improving your speaking and listening skills, and learn to convey complex technical concepts in a clear and persuasive manner to both technical and non-technical audiences.
• Appearance plays a role: While your technical skills and expertise are paramount, don't underestimate the importance of dressing professionally and maintaining a polished appearance. This helps to create a positive impression and reinforces your credibility as a leader.
• Cultivate a strong personal brand: Develop a personal brand that showcases your unique strengths, expertise, and accomplishments. This can help you stand out in a competitive environment and position you as a thought leader in your field.
• Be aware of unconscious biases: Recognize that women and minorities may face additional challenges in developing executive presence due to unconscious biases and stereotypes. Be proactive in addressing these issues and promoting diversity and inclusion within your organization.
• Seek feedback and mentorship: Actively seek feedback from colleagues, mentors, and superiors to identify areas for improvement in your executive presence. Engage in professional development opportunities, such as training programs, workshops, and networking events, to enhance your skills and expand your network.
• Practice emotional intelligence: Develop your emotional intelligence by being empathetic, self-aware, and adaptable. This can help you build strong relationships with your team and effectively navigate the complexities of organizational dynamics.

What are takeaway from WHAT IS YOUR ONE SENTENCE for a senior technical professional

• Simplify your message: As a technical professional, you may be dealing with complex concepts and ideas. However, it's essential to simplify your message and communicate it in a way that is easily understood by both technical and non-technical audiences.
• Craft a compelling one-sentence pitch: Develop a concise, memorable, and persuasive one-sentence pitch that captures the essence of your idea, project, or vision. This will help you effectively communicate your goals and engage your audience.
• Focus on the benefits: When presenting your ideas or projects, emphasize the benefits and value they bring to your organization, team, or clients. This will help you gain buy-in and support from stakeholders.
• Be clear and concise: Avoid using jargon, buzzwords, or overly technical language when communicating with non-technical audiences. Instead, use clear and concise language that is easily understood by everyone.
• Tell a story: Use storytelling techniques to make your message more engaging and memorable. Share anecdotes, examples, or case studies that illustrate the impact and relevance of your ideas or projects.
• Adapt your message to your audience: Tailor your communication style and content to suit the needs, preferences, and expectations of your audience. This may involve adjusting the level of technical detail, focusing on different benefits, or using different communication channels.
• Practice active listening: Effective communication is not just about speaking; it's also about listening. Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker, asking clarifying questions, and providing feedback.

What are takeaway from THE WRITER’S JOURNEY by CHRISTOPHER VOGLER for a senior technical professional

• "The Writer's Journey" by Christopher Vogler is a book that explores the power of storytelling and the universal patterns found in myths, fairy tales, and classic literature. While the book is primarily aimed at writers and screenwriters, senior technical professionals can also benefit from its insights. Here are some key takeaways:
• Understand the power of storytelling: Recognize that storytelling is a powerful tool for communication, persuasion, and engagement. As a senior technical professional, you can use storytelling techniques to make your ideas, projects, and vision more compelling and relatable.
• Utilize the Hero's Journey framework: The Hero's Journey is a universal narrative structure that can be applied to various contexts, including technical presentations and project proposals. By incorporating elements of the Hero's Journey, such as the call to adventure, challenges, and transformation, you can create a more engaging narrative for your audience.
• Develop relatable characters: In your storytelling, create characters that your audience can relate to and empathize with. This can help humanize complex technical concepts and make them more accessible to non-technical audiences.
• Use archetypes to convey meaning: Archetypes are universal symbols and character types that resonate with audiences across cultures and contexts. Incorporate archetypes in your storytelling to convey deeper meaning and evoke emotional responses.
• Create emotional connections: Engage your audience on an emotional level by sharing personal experiences, challenges, and successes related to your technical work. This can help build trust and rapport with your audience.
• Balance logic and emotion: While technical professionals often focus on logic and data, it's essential to balance this with emotional appeal in your storytelling. This can help you create a more persuasive and memorable narrative.
• Continuously refine your storytelling skills: Like any other skill, storytelling requires practice and refinement. Seek feedback from colleagues and mentors, and continuously work on improving your storytelling abilities.
• By applying these takeaways from "The Writer's Journey" to your professional life, you can enhance your communication skills, create more engaging presentations, and ultimately become a more effective leader in the technical field.

What are takeaway from WHEN THEY GO LOW, WE GO HIGH by PHILIP COLLINS for a senior technical professional

• Understand the power of rhetoric: Recognize that well-crafted speeches and presentations can inspire, persuade, and motivate your audience. As a senior technical professional, you can use rhetorical techniques to effectively communicate your ideas, vision, and goals.
• Structure your speech: Organize your speech or presentation in a clear and logical manner, with a strong introduction, well-developed arguments, and a memorable conclusion. This will help your audience follow your train of thought and better understand your message.
• Use persuasive techniques: Employ persuasive techniques, such as ethos (establishing credibility), pathos (appealing to emotions), and logos (using logic and evidence), to make your arguments more compelling and convincing.
• Appeal to shared values: Connect with your audience by appealing to shared values, beliefs, and aspirations. This can help create a sense of unity and common purpose, making your message more resonant and impactful.
• Use memorable language: Craft your speech or presentation using vivid imagery, metaphors, and memorable phrases that will stick in your audience's mind. This can help make your message more engaging and memorable.
• Be authentic: Speak from the heart and be genuine in your communication. This will help you build trust and rapport with your audience, making your message more persuasive and impactful.
• Adapt your style to the occasion: Tailor your speech or presentation to suit the context, audience, and purpose of the event. This may involve adjusting your tone, language, and content to create the most effective and appropriate message.

What are takeaway from Debt: The first 5000 years by David Graeber  for a senior technical professional

• Understand the broader context of economic systems: Recognize that economic systems, including debt and money, have evolved over time and are deeply intertwined with social, political, and cultural factors. As a senior technical professional, this understanding can help you appreciate the broader context of your work and its impact on society.
• Question conventional wisdom: Graeber's book challenges many conventional assumptions about debt, money, and the origins of economic systems. Similarly, as a technical professional, be open to questioning established ideas and assumptions in your field, and be willing to explore alternative perspectives and solutions.
• Recognize the social aspects of debt: Debt is not just an economic concept but also a social relationship that can shape power dynamics and interpersonal interactions. In your professional life, be aware of the social aspects of debt and financial relationships, and consider how they may influence your work and decision-making.
• Appreciate the importance of trust: Trust is a fundamental aspect of debt and financial systems, as well as a crucial component of successful professional relationships. Cultivate trust with your colleagues, clients, and stakeholders by being reliable, transparent, and accountable.
• Consider the ethical implications of your work: Graeber's book highlights the moral and ethical dimensions of debt and economic systems. As a senior technical professional, consider the ethical implications of your work and strive to make decisions that align with your values and principles.
• Embrace interdisciplinary thinking: "Debt: The First 5,000 Years" draws on various disciplines, including anthropology, history, and economics, to provide a comprehensive understanding of its subject matter. Embrace interdisciplinary thinking in your own work by considering how insights from other fields can inform and enhance your technical expertise.
• Reflect on the long-term consequences of your actions: Graeber's book encourages readers to think about the long-term consequences of debt and economic systems. Similarly, as a technical professional, consider the long-term impact of your work and strive to make decisions that promote sustainability and positive outcomes for society.

From one post in LinkedIn

• Everything material can be lost at any moment. So don't be arrogant of what you have.
• Everything material can be rebuilt or bought if you work hard. So aim for success.
• The biggest assets that can never be replaced are friends & loved ones. So cherish every moment with them.

Be kind,be humble. Happy Sunday

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Grit - Endurance

 

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Parenting and Online Activity

 

Must watch for every #parent #education #porn #awarness #digitalfootprint https://t.co/FU5lNprO2a

— Siva (@sivaram2k10) May 4, 2023

Stay Safe!!! 

Viduthalai

Every movie gives us some thoughts, memories, and questions.

Movie plot

• Development vs Resource Exploitation
• Capitalism vs Socialism
• Sustainable Development vs Exports and Industrialization

Suppression / Brutality

• How law deals with interrogation
• How law deals with poor, rich
• How many rules are followed in reality
• Media manipulation vs original news

Power of position

• Follow order
• Cannot question authority
• Remain silent to conscience

What is the gap

• Education to get the part of the power
• Intelligence / Awareness to ask for understanding of Law and Intentions 
• Level playing field
• Awareness in execution
• Rational and Empathetic thinking
• Question real vs manipulated vs hidden agenda

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Be curious, Be fearless

You are not your marks
You are not your grades
You are not your titles
You are your opinions
You are your thinking
You are your ability to connect the dots
You are your kindness
You are your beliefs subtracted by guilt
Equate yourself against yourself for yourself to be a better self
Look for sunshine, Go where you grow, Grow where you go
Leave a smile wherever you go

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Life in 3 Videos

Tell the children about the hard work of the parents. pic.twitter.com/ZuPluOIJli

— Dr. R. Stalin IPS (@stalin_ips) April 21, 2023

 

Pro-programmed Life

• Have a Family - Don't question society
• Home - Own Home - TV - LED - Home theatre
• School - PVT school - IIT JEE
• Beach - Restaurant - Shopping - Movie 
• Keep Shopping endlessly for dress - clothing
• Programmed to spend money
• Ads everywhere digital addictions - offers - promotions
• More money vs Means of earning vs Lavish Lifestyle
• Status based on money

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Partner Test

How do I approach this? Discuss family perspectives/priorities, aspirations, non-negotiable aspects, and expectations, call out negatives as well, and discuss than confront, similar priorities/values, stress vs help.

Test - Link

Adults with a secure attachment style have likely been raised by parents who:

• Provide emotional support
• Foster a sense of independence and exploration of their emotions
• Are in tune with their own emotions
• Show patience, acceptance, and love

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Thoughts for Life

What happens after Death ? - Same thing that happened before our birth

What remains after our Death? - Memories and how people remember us, Our writings, our works, our opinions

What lives after our death? - Our lineage, kids, relatives, how your genes are living through your children and passed on to the next generation

What are you trying to say? - This random moment could be the moment where you can forget your worries, this could be the moment you take care of your loved ones. Today never returns. Live your best. It's okay to be simple, Be happy 

3 Lessons Writing Taught Me About Life

The best advice I never got (for a technical career)

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Conflicts

 

• Credibility vs I am right. How should we argue?
• Identity - Core values, beliefs that feel threatened, Self on the line. Who you are and what you stand for
• Appreciation - Appreciate another side, First 10 mins listen to the value of perspective, logic, rational
• Affiliation 

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One guru - One life - One Master

• To get good at something, you need a coach who puts your ego down.
• To get good at something, you need a coach who supports your decisions.
• To get good at something, you need a course correction
• To get good at something, you need good food
• To get good at something, you need a positive environment

I have to thank my MOM for every sacrifice for me to be what I am today. I may not be the best son but I hope will try to in the coming days.

Thank you, Mom. 

Flaw of Match making portals

• 10% active users, 70% inactive users, 20% Fake users
• Fake profiles in Cambodia, and Thailand, are easy to spot
• Slow Search results
• Mostly Caste based on matching, Repetition of results
• No segments/groups based on mind beyond caste

Zero relevant use of NLP, Intent, Mindset, Cache of previous searches, Relevant / Similar profiles. 

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For my self some words to remember - Levels of Learning

 

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My ideas - Analysis

Whatever ideas I have worked on in recent few years have been evaluated in multiple lenses

Problem Insights

• Solution in search of a problem - No its a valid problem
• Madeup problem vs Real problem - Real problem
• Right team of Tech + Domain - Yes
• Do you have competition ? Is it good to have some competition and find new insights ? - Yes Focused Startups are there in this space
• What problems you have come across, What you observed from your work - This is based on observed needs / insights

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Thoughts - Minds - Lifestyle

Focus on efforts and Discipline

Everything is incremental effort. It takes time to find a lot of ideas and filter quality ideas.

Every learning effort is a combination of ideas and experiments

How New Ideas Arise

• Ideas arise from observations that are outside of their specific field.
• Ideas arise in the most disparate places - bicycle is the means of transport most suited to concentrating and having new ideas
• Ideas can arise at any moment - clear mind, waking up at sunrise
• Ideas arise from boredom 
• Ideas arise from oversights
• Ideas arise from habit
• Ideas arise from dreams

How to draw ideas

• Study: Fill your mind
• Explore: Let it happen
• Develop: See how it works
• Show: Share what matters

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GPT vs Healthcare

How Meningitis  occurs, How to prevent it ?  Does it occur through uncooked food or water, how to avoid it ?

• Meningitis is an inflammation of the membranes that cover the brain and spinal cord. It is usually caused by a bacterial or viral infection.
• To prevent meningitis, you should practice good hygiene, such as washing your hands often and avoiding contact with people who are sick. You should also get vaccinated against certain types of meningitis, such as meningococcal meningitis.
• Meningitis is not usually spread through uncooked food or water, but it can be spread through close contact with an infected person, such as kissing or sharing utensils. To avoid getting meningitis, you should avoid close contact with people who are sick and practice good hygiene.

How Encephalitis occurs, Does it occur through uncooked food or water, how to avoid it

• Encephalitis is an inflammation of the brain that can be caused by a virus, bacteria, or other microorganism. It can also be caused by a reaction to a vaccine, a drug, or a toxin.
• Encephalitis is not usually spread through food or water. It is usually spread through contact with an infected person or animal, or through a mosquito bite.
• To avoid encephalitis, it is important to practice good hygiene, such as washing your hands often and avoiding contact with people who are sick. It is also important to protect yourself from mosquito bites by using insect repellent, wearing long sleeves and pants, and avoiding areas with standing water. Additionally, you should make sure to get all recommended vaccinations, including those for measles, mumps, rubella, and varicella.

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Perceptions vs Opinions vs Reality

• Is he a Robber?
• Is he troubling someone?
• Is he saving Someone?

Bias Exists everywhere, Spot it and Get the true perspective. That is truth!!!

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Choose your options

• Instead of saying “I couldn’t do X”, try saying “I haven’t prioritized X”. 
• Less reactive and more intentional 
• Spend more time on the things that matter most.

Ref - Link

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Good Read - Character and Life

• Look at who they marry - choice tells you about their own innermost longings, expectations, and needs
• How they treat service workers - reliable indicators of trustworthiness that you will find. 
• Experiences formed their character in early life - who people really are and how they might act in difficult situations.
• Invest their two most valuable resources - time and money are far more precious than words.
• Identify what irritates people the most - Cheaters always gripe that others are dishonest
• Can they listen? - Great listeners possess extraordinary skills of awareness and comprehension.
• If they cheat at small things, they will cheat at big things. - Watch out for the small things, and the big things will take care of themselves.
• Watch how they handle unexpected problems - situations are precisely when their character and core values come to the forefront.

Ref - Link

My Views

• Data driven opinion
• Accept faults, don't pretend perfect
• Learning is skill, saving is skill, investing is skill
• Accept what is lost, tradeoff is life
• What is negotiable, What is non-negotiable red flags
• How do you handle betrayal 
• Health matters for good skills
• Habits matter for outcomes
• Maturity is knowing you will not do even if the situation tempts you to do as you know the consequences of it

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Ideas

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Strategic Thinking

 

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GPT to probe on Relationship Compatability

Top 20 Questions to probe your marriage partner about his values

• What are your core values?
• How do you define success?
• What do you believe is the most important thing in life?
• What do you believe is the purpose of life?
• What do you think is the most important thing in a relationship?
• How do you handle conflict?
• How do you handle stress?
• What do you think is the best way to show love and appreciation?
• What do you think is the most important thing to teach our children?
• What do you think is the best way to resolve disagreements?
• What do you think is the best way to handle money?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember in a marriage?
• What do you think is the most important thing to prioritize in life?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember when making decisions?
• How do you think we should handle our differences?
• How do you think we should handle our finances?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in disagreement?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in conflict?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in a difficult situation?
• What do you think is the most important thing to remember when we are in a difficult conversation?

Top 10 questions to spot difference between views and reality in potential marriage discussion

•  How do you envision your future together?
• What are your expectations of marriage?
• How do you plan to handle disagreements?
• What compromises are you willing to make?
• What is your understanding of the roles and responsibilities of each partner?
• How do you plan to manage finances?
• What is your opinion on parenting and raising children?
• What is your opinion on religious beliefs and practices?
• How do you plan to handle extended family relationships?
• How do you plan to handle household chores?

Top 10 questions to probe red flags in marriage partner

• What are your expectations for a successful marriage?
• How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?
• How do you handle money and finances?
• How do you handle stress and difficult times?
• How do you handle family and friends?
• How do you handle differences in opinion?
• How do you handle criticism and feedback?
• How do you handle change and new situations?
• How do you handle anger and frustration?
• How do you handle intimacy and physical affection?

Top 10 questions to spot a cheating marriage partner discussion

• Have you been spending more time away from home than usual?
• Are you being secretive about your phone or computer activities?
• Have you been talking to someone else more than usual?
• Are you dressing differently than usual?
• Are you suddenly more interested in your appearance?
• Have you been spending more money than usual?
• Are you avoiding physical contact with me?
• Are you suddenly more critical of me?
• Have you been lying to me about where you’ve been?
• Are you suddenly more defensive when I ask questions?

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GPT as Doctor

GPT as Doctor 

Question #1 - prescribe me a tablet for fever in 20 words 

Ibuprofen, Acetaminophen, or Aspirin are all good choices for treating fever.

Question #2 - prescribe me a tablet for gastric issue in 20 words 

Omeprazole 20mg tablet once daily before meals.

Question #3 - prescribe me a tablet for cholestrol in 20 words 

Atorvastatin, a cholesterol-lowering medication, is recommended.

Question #4 - prescribe me a tablet for chest burn in 20 words 

Omeprazole 20mg tablet twice daily for relief of chest burn.

Question #5 - prescribe me a tablet for stomach worm in 20 words 

Albendazole 400mg tablet, taken twice daily for three days.

Question #6 - prescribe me a tablet for headache in 20 words 

Ibuprofen 200mg tablet is recommended for headache relief.

Question #7 - prescribe me a tablet for giddiness in 20 words 

The tablet prescribed is meclizine. It helps reduce giddiness and motion sickness.

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GPT Answers

What is dopamine in 20 words

Dopamine is a neurotransmitter in the brain that plays a role in reward, motivation, and pleasure. It is also involved in movement, cognition, and mood regulation.

What is depression in 20 words

Depression is a mental health disorder characterized by persistent sadness, loss of interest, and difficulty in daily activities.

How to handle blackmail in 50 words

Remain calm and do not give in to the blackmailer's demands. Contact the police and report the blackmail. Seek legal advice and support from family and friends.

How to heal traumatic past in 50 words

1. Seek professional help. 

2. Talk to a trusted friend or family member. 

3. Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques. 

4. Exercise regularly. 

5. Challenge negative thoughts. 

6. Acknowledge and accept your feelings. 

7. Write about your experiences. 

8. Develop healthy coping skills. 

9. Create a positive environment. 

10. Focus on the present.

How to cure loneliness in 20 words

1. Reach out to friends and family. 

2. Join a club or group. 

3. Exercise and stay active. 

4. Spend time in nature. 

5. Volunteer in your community. 

6. Take up a hobby. 

7. Get a pet. 

8. Connect with others online. 

9. Practice self-care. 

10. Pursue meaningful goals. 

11. Talk to a therapist. 

12. Practice mindfulness. 

13. Find a support system. 

14. Spend time with positive people. 

15. Make time for yourself. 

16. Get out of your comfort zone. 

How to reclaim yourself 20 words

1. Identify your values

2. Set boundaries

3. Prioritize self-care

4. Practice mindfulness

5. Take time for yourself

6. Speak up for yourself

7. Follow your intuition

8. Let go of guilt

9. Express yourself honestly

10. Respect your needs

11. Find your voice

12. Practice self-compassion

13. Take responsibility

14. Make time for hobbies

15. Find your purpose

16. Connect with nature

17. Listen to your body

18. Celebrate your successes

19. Challenge negative thoughts

20. Forgive yourself

Ref - Link

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Focus - Focus - Consistency

 

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Self Assessment

Your results suggest that one of your highest strengths is Transparency.
Your results suggest that one of your highest strengths is Teamwork.
Your results suggest that one of your highest strengths is Accountability.
Your results suggest that one of your lower strengths is Patient Focus.

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2022 - 2023

2022 

• Thanks for all the support
• Thank you Mom for tolerating my attitude
• Thank Me for all learning
• Thank my friends for the support. Some friends were with me in all my hard times. 
• Thanks, Satya for all your support
• Thanks, Jeeva for all the Walks

2023

• Hopeful, Optimistic, and Kind
• Hoping for it.

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