Good Reads

Good Read - Tips for better life

Key Thoughts

• History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
• Discipline is superior to motivation.
• The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well.
• Cultivate a reputation for being dependable
• Remember that you are dying. 
• When people’s actions contradict their talk, pay attention! 

Good Read - Porn Literacy in the Digital Age

Key Thoughts

• Pornography is deeply embedded in the daily lives of today’s youth, who are digital natives.
• We’d best keep our mouths shut and our ears open, so that we can listen to what they have to say.

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Sign off 2020

• 2020 was a very different year
• It was challenging both personally and professionally
• Professionally it was a long stretch to learn/work on time-bound projects
• Teaching was ok-ok
• Personally not so well, overall.

A big thank you to everyone with whom I shared my 2020. Apologies for anyone whom I may have hurt. At the end of 2020 in terms of memories are some vague travel moments, work from home always.

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Wealth

It is not about bank balance

It is not about money multiplying with interest

It is not about money for the next few generations

It is not about 'Feeling of I am Safe'

It is not about 'length of life'

You can be happy with what you have or unhappy with all that you gave. Driving on the ghats, Seeing a beautiful sunset, Have a late light tea on a highway are simple things that do not need a lot of money or wealth. Somehow I am out of all this race. Just be in the workforce for some time and starting living life differently.

Maybe the next few years I may spend more time away from the city, the crowd, and people. Time to be with nature.

Keep Going, Build your Journey!!!

Quora Analysis 2020

 Quora also summarized my 2020 contributions

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Search for Life middle of the struggles

I haven't met happiness from

• Work
• Life

I don't believe anyone is truly good. We have moments of

• Lust
• Jealously
• Happiness
• Sadness
• Patience
• Vengence

The moment where you can hurt but choose not to hurt is maturity. The moment you know your emotional mind takes a decision than proving your point

Drugs, Alcohol, Sex everything is a form of addiction which needs to be monitored. Guilt vs Shame is big baggage to carry till death. Even if no one knows what guilt we carry will certainly kill us one day.

Keeping low baggage is the only way to feel satisfied within us

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Some pics and my thoughts

Few things I remember seeing this

• Past twenty years almost tea + computer
• More time spent on work than my personal life
• Kept climbing without bothering much on health
• Few things that were always with me was quora, blogging, biryani, sleep, and the internet
• Addiction to success, vision, belief in things you feel it is good

• I am my own creator, destroyer
• Sometimes things awake the destructive and challenging mindset
• Caught between average vs can I be better
• Being good vs real good vs pretending good
• Not being able to really gauge people/life/achievements
• Fairly happy with life with travel, food. Unhappy on personal front and relationship failures
• Maybe I am not made for a relationship or my views contradict the general success criteria

• A long ride, dark night, songs are what represents this picture
• Best happiness comes from driving alone, listening to songs
• People scare me, people expectations scare me
• Soon, will be away from hunger for power, lust, women, Relationships are a burden with mismatched expectations. Is it for lust or for emotions. Emotions powered my perspectives but that broke my beliefs too
• Virgin vs emotional divorcee vs traumatized search experience everything leads to more scary experiences meeting people

Oh Life, Give me a Break!!!

Random Post

 A relationship is like tissue paper. Once it gets wet due to lust/emotion it will end up in the dust bin.

The sadist part in us

With every rejection our perspective change

With every damage our approach changes

From being innocent, you become aware

From being aware, you become defensive

From being defensive, you become offensive if provoked

Finally, innocence becomes aggression

Many of us started being kind and ended being what we are

Did we meet this person for good or to make us feel bad?

So are there really good people or it's all baked with the same vengence?

Do we lose ourselves as we get old?

Are we cannibalistic to survive in our lives?

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Loneliness vs Love vs Lust

Emotional bonding, understanding, caring are a connect which builds more trust. That would overall awake the inner self to truly go with the person you love. Love indeed may not end with sex but definitely does not limit itself to sex

Lust yes the hidden pleasure that lives in us. It may be a short-lived fantasy. This is not more than stray dogs that meet, mate, and part. Yes, loneliness may end up in lust and lust may end up in disaster in life. 

Loneliness is a great opportunity to travel around without the intent of love or lust. Just go alone see the world. Don't compare, Don't expect.

If it comes, let it come

If it goes, let it go

If it stays, let it stay

If it doesn't come, it's alright

You are your own company

You are your own king

You are your own traveler

In the end, we only regret the mistakes

Let me die with less shame and guilt

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Retrospect 2020

• Core Retail Proposal Recommendations
• Retail Client Projects
• Propose Innovative Ideas / POC
• More and more and more work, No WLB
• All WFH is only Work
• Docker, Kubernetes a bit more hands-on
• Teaching at a slower pace
• Overall 2X of efforts compared to last year
• Personal life ended on a very very bad note
• Need a break from everything but It's only been a wish for a long time
• Keep coding, Keep learning, Keep Teaching

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Changing Life Priorities

Quit job, Travel more in 2021

Settle in Life or Travel more in life

Teach, Blog but plan to live outdoor life next 5 years

Focus on Health, Cook, Live life differently than the past 20 years

Sit down identify emotional needs and find meaningful solutions

Build weekly goals, daily outcomes both personally and professionally

Be good not just in looks but also in thoughts, habits, focus, and decisions

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Claiming yourself back

 Keep Thinking!!!

Introspect and burn thyself

You cannot find the right things in the wrong place

You cannot do the right things with the wrong intentions

Everything is feet away from good vs bad

Being good is also not easy, Being bad is also not easy

Good and bad is a combination of consequence from the situation, impact, and emotional baggage

A silly mistake could be a fire that can burn a forest

A good decision can be a chance to put off the fire

Is it good/bad due to Situations/needs?

Is good/bad driven by emotional, physical needs?

If the face is a reflection of character then how many beautiful faces can we see?

How bad I am and How much good I can be?

What makes bad so bad or drives it to be bad

We look good outside and rotten inside

Sometimes staying away from Laptop, Phone, and driving out is the best decision.

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Stay Aware, Alert

What you say about yourself can itself be used to target you? Faces, words are not the true colors of a person. The way it works when nothing works shows the true color of compassion and understanding. 

Life teaches a lot from unexpected meeting with people. Keep Going!!!

Part Ways with peace

Some people we meet will take away all the hope of optimism. People have different levels of expectations, thoughts, and behaviors. The true personality reveals when we don't sail in the same level of thoughts. In a way of dealing with rejection, hate is the biggest learning in life. The true mark of respect is based on acceptance, understanding, and being transparent to accept uncomfortable feedback.

Alert, Aware and go on. Never fall for empty promises, self praises.

Pics <> Personality <> Promises

Never trust blindly with emotions

What we represent is not what we are

The bad shows up when the hope ends

Label something for their own is the start of the revelation of personality

Never ever trust someone who claims 100% perfect

Better be single than trying to change yourself for others

Never fall into the emotional trap of someone

Life is better lived alone!!!

Note to Self

Some things can never be forgiven

Some things can never be forgotten

Some things can never be rewritten

Never hurt anyone, Never trust or take things for granted

Interesting reads

The Complete Guide to Effective Reading

• Transfer the newly acquired intelligence from your working memory
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• The sum of your mental models - A mental model is a mental, simplified depiction of how something works
• Build long-term understanding

The Children of Pornhub

“A whole life can be changed because of one little mistake.”

Pornhub was the technology company with the third greatest-impact on society in the 21st century, after Facebook and Google but ahead of Microsoft, Apple and Amazon.

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