I’m 44 now and recently divorced. Been working out a lot of things the last few years, about what is and isn’t important, and how best to engage with my genuine self.
I’m getting married for the first time in a few weeks at 38 years old! ❤️ I know myself a lot better than I did in my 20s and we got engaged this spring after only a year of dating.
I'm sorry to hear that, Kelsey. I'm 30, and I've found the highest quality relationship of my life. I see you and I share coding and climbing in common! That's basically how my S.O. and I met and bonded. Those two communities are great for meeting wonderful, supportive people.
Success in marriage is based on how successful the kids are
Everything is part of life happiness, respect, support, care, kindness, romance. Everyone has their ego moment but how soon we forgive or compromise for the best decision is the key.
In a way we know what max this person can impact us only after the person leaves us
Not everyone who talks well is actually good. Not everyone who is good can express themselves very well.
It's like how to respond to this, How to do self-marketing, Are they for money, How will it work, Mom will reject or will this work :)
Very tough to find someone is for money or the right attitude. Now it's like use and throw relationships
Good or bad there is an ego internally this girl rejected so the choose a better partner
Embodied Brilliance is a habit. What we choose to BE...we become.
Excellence isn’t about one victory. It’s about the discipline over years of consistency of pursuing your true potential
Excellence then becomes the by-product of deliberate practice in pursuit of high performance
Executing on an idea vs just thinking about it. The thought is easy, the journey is difficult and that's what separates a strong team from an average one.
The life long learner is the person with the highest average learning hours consistently over time.
The gold medalist is the runner with the highest average speed, not the fastest top speed.
There are a lot of issues in social media, The primary motive seems to have failed
Targeted marketing to influence people
Change from Morality to Majority Opinion is right
Crowd following mentality
Drive more consumeristic / purchase behavior
Focus more on lifestyle/luxury than principles/priorities
Low or no importance to education
Setting up wrong examples
Addiction to games/media / fake gurus
Commercialize everything, Take away all the time
In a way they have created isolated hotspots, depressed, addicted to smartphones. With cheap internet, they have only screwed their lives further. Targeted apps for each age group. Drive based on their emotional, behavioral needs.
To be true to self is the biggest decision. To not give up on a situation is a great strength. Sometimes you have to struggle too long even for things which is easier for the rest. Principles vs Distractions vs Goals vs Tradeoffs.
I liked these lists of Fake Internships reviewed by Youtuber Joshua. In a way providing very minimal salary and extracting maximum work is the mantra of the internship.
It's impossible to be productive for all 8hours at work
Ideas take time, Ideas come from reading, thinking, experimenting
Mentoring / Internship is not as much important as Self-learning
Focus, Attention is the most critical piece of learning. Sometime back had mentioned the same in the context of working on weekends. This link summarizes a similar perspective
Attention, Sustainable productivity is desired are key contributors to it. Few pointers like
Switch off Notifications
Avoid Smartphone usage
Neat Working Environment
Organize work / prioritize it
Another vital link that hit me is spotting Destructive Leaders
I have come across instances / felt those tactics.
Stagnant with fixed perspectives
Dominant my way or no way
Micromanagement
Fabricating beyond the actual issue
Somethings which are blatant and visible are
Automatically dismiss ideas from others
External image is unusually extreme in some way
Unapologetic self-promoting and self-aggrandizing
A belief that they are the heroic warrior who will save the weak
Creating impossible standards that no one can reach
To grow both in Life / Career we need to be consistently productive in the long run as well as spot the right leaders we work with.
You can never be happy being a people pleaser, You will eventually end up losing yourself for meeting people's expectations. Job, family, friends everything plays a role in life. Success is a perspective, Living life on your own terms, Building your version of a meaningful life.
This note resonates with some of the mindset, A mindset to keep chasing things or long for things you don't really need. Find the life between selfishness vs selflessness, Build your own perspectives, goals, and work towards that definition. In the end, we only remember the experience, failures. Be perfectly imperfect to build a better version of yourself.
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"The person that you will spend most time with in your life is yourself, so better try to make yourself as interesting as possible...."
Like a drunkard, this blog is my late-night diary and serves as my graveyard shift memories. When I am not there in this world you will know what was running in my mind. Win or Lose keep the journey interesting!!!
“You live only once, If you are right once is enough”
"Always be a part of solution not part of problem"
"Yet, Taught by time, my heart has learned to glow for other's good, and melt at other's woe" - Homer
“I love the man who can smile in trouble that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection.” - Thomas Paine (1737–1809), American political theorist & writer
