Notes for Life

 

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Regret - Guilt - Pain

December is a disastrous time in my life. My vehicle was claimed by floodwaters. I found myself questioning my decisions, wondering why my instincts had failed me. Letting go of something I invested my heart in is proving difficult.

The exhaustion is palpable; work has pushed me beyond my breaking point. Health concerns are mounting as age begins to show its effects. Sometimes I question the value of it all in the grand scheme of things.

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Car Flooding

My Vehicle was flooded completely. Below are the parts costs. My guess is repair costs would be 4-6 lakhs

  • Radiator 28,535
  • Intercooler 17,442
  • Spark Plug 740
  • Cylinder Kit 1,05,876
  • Clutch Plate 21,075
  • Head Light (Left or Right ) 29,398
  • Tail Light (Left or Right) 5,220
  • Fog Lamp Assembly 3,395
  • Bulb 1,057
  • Head Light LED (Left Or Right ) 31,408
  • Combination Switch 10,305
  • Battery 28,370
  • Horn 1,995
  • Oil Filter 791
  • Air Filter 856
  • Fuel Filter 2,459
  • ENGINE CONTROL MODULE 53,704
  • MODULE OF RELAY WI 1,00,709
  • UNIT-ELEC.PROGRAMM 1,17,537
  • MODULE ASSY - AIR BAG, DRIVER 11,545
  • ECU-PARKING AID 8,984
  • TRANSMISSION CONTROL MODULE ₹36,409

Range of parts ₹405,072. - ₹617,810. Work may be 1 lakh additional

7 Lakhs could be cost

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Life vs Time vs Health

Health is more important than everything
Sometimes silence is the better answer than trying to prove your point
You cannot win in a Team when there is a lot of mistrust
Do not put your time and effort into convincing everything
Sometimes you need to stop earning to start learning and living
Above all, prioritize your mental health and peace

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Let Life be a Positive Story

 


Wish the same level of Optimism and Energy. Live till you die. Don't Die every day to Live.

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Emotions of Life

 Life is not easy when dealing with conflicting emotions. We do not want to go against opinions but at the same time, it's hard to suppress emotions. After several failures, it becomes so hard to trust people. All the smiles may not carry the same intentions. If everyone's faces reflect their heart will know the true beauty of life. Life seems much easier when you are alone. Everyone wants you to be better but not better than them. Lust / Greed / Money all are traps for bigger failures. Earning money does not make me happy. Doing work I like to do and earning from it makes it meaningful. Marriage is not a solution but a step forward if you have like-minded thinking. Life is sometimes puzzling, sometimes a mystery, sometimes pain, sometimes pain becomes a pleasure. At least death serves as a solution for everything. When no one remembers you after death as 'How bad he was' that is all that we need in Life, Not to be remembered. Neither exploit nor yet exploited. Just vanish in the air. Keep Life Simple.

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Critical Thinking

 


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Storytelling Tips from Books

What are takeaway from EXECUTIVE PRESENCE for a senior technical professional

  • Gravitas is crucial: As a senior technical professional, it's essential to project confidence, authority, and decisiveness. Demonstrate your expertise and ability to handle challenging situations to gain the respect and trust of your colleagues and superiors.
  • Communication skills matter: Effective communication is vital for leaders in any field, including technical professionals. Work on improving your speaking and listening skills, and learn to convey complex technical concepts in a clear and persuasive manner to both technical and non-technical audiences.
  • Appearance plays a role: While your technical skills and expertise are paramount, don't underestimate the importance of dressing professionally and maintaining a polished appearance. This helps to create a positive impression and reinforces your credibility as a leader.
  • Cultivate a strong personal brand: Develop a personal brand that showcases your unique strengths, expertise, and accomplishments. This can help you stand out in a competitive environment and position you as a thought leader in your field.
  • Be aware of unconscious biases: Recognize that women and minorities may face additional challenges in developing executive presence due to unconscious biases and stereotypes. Be proactive in addressing these issues and promoting diversity and inclusion within your organization.
  • Seek feedback and mentorship: Actively seek feedback from colleagues, mentors, and superiors to identify areas for improvement in your executive presence. Engage in professional development opportunities, such as training programs, workshops, and networking events, to enhance your skills and expand your network.
  • Practice emotional intelligence: Develop your emotional intelligence by being empathetic, self-aware, and adaptable. This can help you build strong relationships with your team and effectively navigate the complexities of organizational dynamics.

What are takeaway from WHAT IS YOUR ONE SENTENCE for a senior technical professional

  • Simplify your message: As a technical professional, you may be dealing with complex concepts and ideas. However, it's essential to simplify your message and communicate it in a way that is easily understood by both technical and non-technical audiences.
  • Craft a compelling one-sentence pitch: Develop a concise, memorable, and persuasive one-sentence pitch that captures the essence of your idea, project, or vision. This will help you effectively communicate your goals and engage your audience.
  • Focus on the benefits: When presenting your ideas or projects, emphasize the benefits and value they bring to your organization, team, or clients. This will help you gain buy-in and support from stakeholders.
  • Be clear and concise: Avoid using jargon, buzzwords, or overly technical language when communicating with non-technical audiences. Instead, use clear and concise language that is easily understood by everyone.
  • Tell a story: Use storytelling techniques to make your message more engaging and memorable. Share anecdotes, examples, or case studies that illustrate the impact and relevance of your ideas or projects.
  • Adapt your message to your audience: Tailor your communication style and content to suit the needs, preferences, and expectations of your audience. This may involve adjusting the level of technical detail, focusing on different benefits, or using different communication channels.
  • Practice active listening: Effective communication is not just about speaking; it's also about listening. Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker, asking clarifying questions, and providing feedback.

What are takeaway from THE WRITER’S JOURNEY by CHRISTOPHER VOGLER for a senior technical professional

  • "The Writer's Journey" by Christopher Vogler is a book that explores the power of storytelling and the universal patterns found in myths, fairy tales, and classic literature. While the book is primarily aimed at writers and screenwriters, senior technical professionals can also benefit from its insights. Here are some key takeaways:
  • Understand the power of storytelling: Recognize that storytelling is a powerful tool for communication, persuasion, and engagement. As a senior technical professional, you can use storytelling techniques to make your ideas, projects, and vision more compelling and relatable.
  • Utilize the Hero's Journey framework: The Hero's Journey is a universal narrative structure that can be applied to various contexts, including technical presentations and project proposals. By incorporating elements of the Hero's Journey, such as the call to adventure, challenges, and transformation, you can create a more engaging narrative for your audience.
  • Develop relatable characters: In your storytelling, create characters that your audience can relate to and empathize with. This can help humanize complex technical concepts and make them more accessible to non-technical audiences.
  • Use archetypes to convey meaning: Archetypes are universal symbols and character types that resonate with audiences across cultures and contexts. Incorporate archetypes in your storytelling to convey deeper meaning and evoke emotional responses.
  • Create emotional connections: Engage your audience on an emotional level by sharing personal experiences, challenges, and successes related to your technical work. This can help build trust and rapport with your audience.
  • Balance logic and emotion: While technical professionals often focus on logic and data, it's essential to balance this with emotional appeal in your storytelling. This can help you create a more persuasive and memorable narrative.
  • Continuously refine your storytelling skills: Like any other skill, storytelling requires practice and refinement. Seek feedback from colleagues and mentors, and continuously work on improving your storytelling abilities.
  • By applying these takeaways from "The Writer's Journey" to your professional life, you can enhance your communication skills, create more engaging presentations, and ultimately become a more effective leader in the technical field.

What are takeaway from WHEN THEY GO LOW, WE GO HIGH by PHILIP COLLINS for a senior technical professional

  • Understand the power of rhetoric: Recognize that well-crafted speeches and presentations can inspire, persuade, and motivate your audience. As a senior technical professional, you can use rhetorical techniques to effectively communicate your ideas, vision, and goals.
  • Structure your speech: Organize your speech or presentation in a clear and logical manner, with a strong introduction, well-developed arguments, and a memorable conclusion. This will help your audience follow your train of thought and better understand your message.
  • Use persuasive techniques: Employ persuasive techniques, such as ethos (establishing credibility), pathos (appealing to emotions), and logos (using logic and evidence), to make your arguments more compelling and convincing.
  • Appeal to shared values: Connect with your audience by appealing to shared values, beliefs, and aspirations. This can help create a sense of unity and common purpose, making your message more resonant and impactful.
  • Use memorable language: Craft your speech or presentation using vivid imagery, metaphors, and memorable phrases that will stick in your audience's mind. This can help make your message more engaging and memorable.
  • Be authentic: Speak from the heart and be genuine in your communication. This will help you build trust and rapport with your audience, making your message more persuasive and impactful.
  • Adapt your style to the occasion: Tailor your speech or presentation to suit the context, audience, and purpose of the event. This may involve adjusting your tone, language, and content to create the most effective and appropriate message.

What are takeaway from Debt: The first 5000 years by David Graeber  for a senior technical professional

  • Understand the broader context of economic systems: Recognize that economic systems, including debt and money, have evolved over time and are deeply intertwined with social, political, and cultural factors. As a senior technical professional, this understanding can help you appreciate the broader context of your work and its impact on society.
  • Question conventional wisdom: Graeber's book challenges many conventional assumptions about debt, money, and the origins of economic systems. Similarly, as a technical professional, be open to questioning established ideas and assumptions in your field, and be willing to explore alternative perspectives and solutions.
  • Recognize the social aspects of debt: Debt is not just an economic concept but also a social relationship that can shape power dynamics and interpersonal interactions. In your professional life, be aware of the social aspects of debt and financial relationships, and consider how they may influence your work and decision-making.
  • Appreciate the importance of trust: Trust is a fundamental aspect of debt and financial systems, as well as a crucial component of successful professional relationships. Cultivate trust with your colleagues, clients, and stakeholders by being reliable, transparent, and accountable.
  • Consider the ethical implications of your work: Graeber's book highlights the moral and ethical dimensions of debt and economic systems. As a senior technical professional, consider the ethical implications of your work and strive to make decisions that align with your values and principles.
  • Embrace interdisciplinary thinking: "Debt: The First 5,000 Years" draws on various disciplines, including anthropology, history, and economics, to provide a comprehensive understanding of its subject matter. Embrace interdisciplinary thinking in your own work by considering how insights from other fields can inform and enhance your technical expertise.
  • Reflect on the long-term consequences of your actions: Graeber's book encourages readers to think about the long-term consequences of debt and economic systems. Similarly, as a technical professional, consider the long-term impact of your work and strive to make decisions that promote sustainability and positive outcomes for society.

From one post in LinkedIn

  • Everything material can be lost at any moment. So don't be arrogant of what you have.
  • Everything material can be rebuilt or bought if you work hard. So aim for success.
  • The biggest assets that can never be replaced are friends & loved ones. So cherish every moment with them.

Be kind,be humble. Happy Sunday


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Grit - Endurance

 


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Parenting and Online Activity

 


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Viduthalai

Every movie gives us some thoughts, memories, and questions.

Movie plot

  • Development vs Resource Exploitation
  • Capitalism vs Socialism
  • Sustainable Development vs Exports and Industrialization
Suppression / Brutality

  • How law deals with interrogation
  • How law deals with poor, rich
  • How many rules are followed in reality
  • Media manipulation vs original news
Power of position
  • Follow order
  • Cannot question authority
  • Remain silent to conscience
What is the gap
  • Education to get the part of the power
  • Intelligence / Awareness to ask for understanding of Law and Intentions 
  • Level playing field
  • Awareness in execution
  • Rational and Empathetic thinking
  • Question real vs manipulated vs hidden agenda
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Be curious, Be fearless

You are not your marks
You are not your grades
You are not your titles
You are your opinions
You are your thinking
You are your ability to connect the dots
You are your kindness
You are your beliefs subtracted by guilt
Equate yourself against yourself for yourself to be a better self
Look for sunshine, Go where you grow, Grow where you go
Leave a smile wherever you go

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Life in 3 Videos


 



Pro-programmed Life

  • Have a Family - Don't question society
  • Home - Own Home - TV - LED - Home theatre
  • School - PVT school - IIT JEE
  • Beach - Restaurant - Shopping - Movie 
  • Keep Shopping endlessly for dress - clothing
  • Programmed to spend money
  • Ads everywhere digital addictions - offers - promotions
  • More money vs Means of earning vs Lavish Lifestyle
  • Status based on money

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Partner Test

How do I approach this? Discuss family perspectives/priorities, aspirations, non-negotiable aspects, and expectations, call out negatives as well, and discuss than confront, similar priorities/values, stress vs help.

Test - Link

Adults with a secure attachment style have likely been raised by parents who:

  • Provide emotional support
  • Foster a sense of independence and exploration of their emotions
  • Are in tune with their own emotions
  • Show patience, acceptance, and love

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Thoughts for Life

What happens after Death ? - Same thing that happened before our birth

What remains after our Death? - Memories and how people remember us, Our writings, our works, our opinions

What lives after our death? - Our lineage, kids, relatives, how your genes are living through your children and passed on to the next generation

What are you trying to say? - This random moment could be the moment where you can forget your worries, this could be the moment you take care of your loved ones. Today never returns. Live your best. It's okay to be simple, Be happy 

3 Lessons Writing Taught Me About Life

The best advice I never got (for a technical career)

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Conflicts

 

  • Credibility vs I am right. How should we argue?
  • Identity - Core values, beliefs that feel threatened, Self on the line. Who you are and what you stand for
  • Appreciation - Appreciate another side, First 10 mins listen to the value of perspective, logic, rational
  • Affiliation 

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One guru - One life - One Master

  • To get good at something, you need a coach who puts your ego down.
  • To get good at something, you need a coach who supports your decisions.
  • To get good at something, you need a course correction
  • To get good at something, you need good food
  • To get good at something, you need a positive environment

I have to thank my MOM for every sacrifice for me to be what I am today. I may not be the best son but I hope will try to in the coming days.

Thank you, Mom. 

Flaw of Match making portals

  • 10% active users, 70% inactive users, 20% Fake users
  • Fake profiles in Cambodia, and Thailand, are easy to spot
  • Slow Search results
  • Mostly Caste based on matching, Repetition of results
  • No segments/groups based on mind beyond caste

Zero relevant use of NLP, Intent, Mindset, Cache of previous searches, Relevant / Similar profiles. 

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For my self some words to remember - Levels of Learning

 






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"Fight for you. Believe in you. Bleed. Cry. Conquer - Dan Waldschmidt"